What Is An Extinction Burst?

Extinction Bursts: The Storm Before the Calm

Sleep training can be a challenging journey for both parents and little ones. As a Certified Gentle Sleep Coach, I often hear from parents about a phenomenon known as an "extinction burst." This sudden increase in crying and protesting can be alarming, but it can also be a normal part of the process.  

What is an Extinction Burst?

An extinction burst occurs when a previously reinforced behavior, such as crying for a parent to come in and hold to sleep, is no longer rewarded. In the context of sleep training, this means that when a little one cries for their usual sleep cues (rocking, feeding, or being held), and those usual cues are withheld, they may initially increase their crying in an attempt to get the desired response.

It's like teaching a dog to sit. Initially, you reward the dog with a treat every time they sit. Once the dog reliably sits, you gradually reduce the treats. There might be a brief period where the dog sits more frequently or excitedly, hoping for a treat. This is similar to an extinction burst.

Why Do Extinction Bursts Happen?

Extinction bursts are a sign that your baby or toddler is adjusting to a new sleep routine. It's their way of testing the waters and seeing if their old behaviors will still work. While it can be distressing to hear your little one have a harder time, it's important to remember that this is a temporary phase.  

• Frustration: Your little one is likely frustrated with the new sleep behaviors and the absence of their usual sleep cues.

• Testing Boundaries: They're testing to see if you'll give in to their old demands.

• Learning New Skills: Your little one is learning how to self-soothe and fall asleep independently.

Overcoming the Extinction Burst

It's natural to feel overwhelmed during an extinction burst. However, it's important to stay consistent with your sleep training plan. Here are some tips to help you through this challenging phase:

• Trust the Process: Remember that extinction bursts are normal and temporary.

• Be Patient: It takes time for your little one to adjust to new sleep habits.

• Self-Care: Take breaks and find time to recharge.

• Seek Support: Connect with other parents or a sleep consultant for encouragement.

• Avoid Giving In: Consistency is key. Giving in to your little one's cries during an extinction burst can prolong the process.  

While extinction bursts can be difficult, they are often a sign that you're on the right track. By understanding this phenomenon and staying committed to your sleep training plan, you can help your little one develop healthy sleep habits.

Remember, every child is different, and what works for one may not work for another. It's essential to find a sleep training method that aligns with your family's values and parenting style.

And remember, as a Certified Gentle Sleep Coach I am always here to help on your family's sleep journey! Want to learn more? Book your 30 minute Sweet Dreams Starter Call today!

Yours in sleep,

Tracie / Rest Well Baby

Tracie Kesatie is a Certified Gentle Sleep Coach dedicated to helping families with little ones 0-10 years of age achieve a restful night's sleep.